Loris is putting on a magic show by making many of the items in her closet disappear. She's evolving and so is her style so some of her trendy pieces are being donated to her younger sister. Now what? When something disappears, something else has to appear...like new items from the Belk Charity event sale, Chicos, and Charlotte Russe!
It all started with a recent gift basket donation from Belk for our National Teachers Appreciation Week give away event. A bottle of Gucci Flora was enclosed and since we had never sampled the fragrance, curiosity got the best of my mom and she sprayed a little on her wrist and fell in love. As we sat in her living room, she relaxed in her recliner, and I seated directly in front of her, we chatted about this and that; bags, shoes, and stuff. She bragged about her bottle of Juicy Couturee (as she pronounces it) that my brother bought her last year and laughs because she does that deliberately. She periodically held up her wrist to intake the Gucci fragrance and each time it seemed to give her a feeling of exhilaration. She smiled and said "I want this."
Earlier in the day, Loris called "Mama, I've been trying to call you. I was at Belk and wanted to know what you wanted for Mother's Day. Do you still want Alien perfume?" Yes, she knows that Alien is on my list of "what fragrance to purchase next" along with J'adore Dior, and now Gucci Flora. She knows that because she knows me. We talk almost daily. We keep each other in mind as we shop. We make 2 hours trips to visit each other. and her visits aren't limited to birthdays, Mother's Days, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years Day. She loves me even though she knows that I'm guilty of bad teaching practices which resulted in her experiencing anxiety while taking math exams for life. She forgave me for wrongs that I attempted to make right and the outcome was even more wrong. She had witnessed me deal with emotions that would make any young woman fearful of maturing, but in all of my errors, she knows that I really tried, maybe not to the extent that I should have or could have, but still, I tried to be a good mother.
As I watch my mom, I wonder how many calls has she received? I wonder if she knows what my frequent visits mean? I wonder if they make up for the visits she doesn't get? I wonder if it makes her sad? With all the passing years, I wonder if they miss her? I wonder why they won't drive two hours to see her? I wonder if they would be proud of how well she's taking of herself? That she still drives, pays her own bills. That she's still independent. I wonder if they know that some days are filled with watching Western movies, that she would like to write a book? I wonder if they know about all the miracles that God performed through her? I wonder if they know that she loves law, politics, and that she can recite poetry from elementary school? I wonder if they know that she will be 75 years old this year and that she's content going out to Bojangles or Dairy Queen every once in a while? I just wonder....if she knows that I'm buying her Gucci Flora...because she's my MOM...and it's Mother's Day everyday!
It's been more than seven days since I've attempted to comb my hair. Am I protesting against the billion dollar hair weave industry that has enslaved the minds of many women of color? Women who, on the hottest day of southern summer heat are dead set on bolstering pounds of weighty weave like a throw rug on their shoulders? Maybe. Am I outraged when my 14 year old daughter mentions an altercation at school which resulted in a full wig being snatched off and the hallways filled with detached crochet braids and the students are entertained? Yes. Am I p'd off when listening to women describe the use of pain medication before their visit to the "Africans"? Why "H. Yeh"! Do I cringe when I see pre-k kids with non-existent hair lines and braids down to their waist? Yes m'aam!
Is this fake hair is driving us nuts? Yes!. From reality show stars to entertainers to news reporters, we've gone weave crazy. We are not opting for the short do's either, but that long stuff which looks like you're burping a hair baby on both shoulders. And, not a single one of their viewers or fans will say "Hey. Don't you think that's a bit much?" Maybe it's not the weave itself that has me protesting, but the monster of a person that it seems to create as a result. That's the real issue!
Can you lose the "on fleek" for "on free" for a few days?
My teenager is tall, she always wanted to be tall, but all of a sudden I'm constantly reminding her to stand up straight. She towers over many of the girls her age and I'm beginning to think that she just might be uncomfortable with the height difference. Middle school kids can say some pretty mean things to tall girls under the guise of lighthearted joking, but the impact can last for a lifetime.
Today I met one of the most graceful, elegant, poised,and beautiful tall ladies that you could ever meet. I watched her secretly and hoped that she wouldn't notice. All I could think was "I wish that my daughter could see her". She wore a pitch black skater dress by Express with a black tee underneath with little lace sleeves. Her hair was sleek, makeup flawless, of course, and her personality was even more beautiful! I approached her and asked "Would you mind if I ask you a few questions and take a few pictures for our fashion blog?" She flashed a beautiful smile and said "Sure."
I wanted to know if she had any positive words for teenage girls who are a little insecure about their height. Being tall with confidence and great posture makes your presence known when you enter a room, she shared. It definitely gives you an advantage in sports such as volleyball and basketball. Your height can be intimidating in a good way too, striking fear in criminals because you're not perceived as an easy target. Studies show that criminals select victims based on their body language, i.e. slumped posture, shuffled walking style. Even facial expressions like downward gazes and fearful expressions can be interpreted by criminals as characteristics of an "easy prey."
I asked if she was bullied as a teen and her answer may surprise you. It was her friends who teased her, but insults delivered in a joking manner are still insults. But, as the title of the blog shows, this tall tale has a very happy ending. She has a very successful career as Account Coordinator for Estee Lauder at Belk. She definitely has "presence", perfectly comfortable being the center of attention, and a positive role model for not only tall girls, but all girls!
I'm trying to think of all the Joe's that I've heard of. There was a Joe from high school who had a crush on me, but he was nothing to write home about. Then there was Smokin' Joe Frazier and Joe Louis, professional boxers, and there was nothing average about them. There's Joe Jonas, the cutest and the most talented of the Jonas Brothers. Sorry Nick! R&B singer, Joe, can sing better than former label mate R. Kelly any day of the week. Who can forget Joe Jackson, father and manager of the famous Jackson 5? There's Joe Boxer from Kmart and the brand, Joe Fresh, that JCPenney discontinued in 2015. Less than average sales I presume. Anyways, on to the Joe who's at the top of my list right now: Joe's Jeans! When it comes to quality, style, and fit, these jeans are not your average Joe's!
It has been said that there are two things that all women wish for: 1. To be rich and 2. To be skinny. Well, having more than enough money couldn't be a bad thing and females are always looking to drop a few pounds...so maybe it's true. (Shrugs)
In 2006, denim heavy weight, Michael Glasser, founder of SFAM and COH, partnered with Joie Rucker to create Rich & Skinny jeans which originally sold in in select retailers such as Nieman Marcus and Nordstrom. The brand name would lead you to believe that these jeans which sold for prices well above $100.00 were created for the rich and skinny, but according to these designers, "rich" described the quality of the material; "skinny" described how they make you look and feel. Rich & Skinny is how they made you look and feel.
I recently thrifted a pair of these R & S jeans for $3.99. A Google searched revealed that these are not the $100.00 jeans that they once were and are pretty hard to find. Well..that goes to show that money doesn't last forever and the weight sometimes comes back....but still a great find for a skinny teen trying to save money for college..
You know the people who travel the country selling clothing and accessories in parking lots near vacant buildings or gas stations? Yes, the traveling boutique people. Well, I think they have partnered with Walgreens and moved their merchandise inside. I was blown away when I saw maxi dresses, palazzo pants, thongs sandals, infinity scarves, and boutique style tops in Walgreens. Whaaat? Yes, I'm serious! You can drop off your prescription and shop for a new outfit while you wait. I should have known that once leggings were stocked, palazzo pants and other trendy styles couldn't be far behind! But where's the mannequin with her butt tooted up in chevron leggings?
Check it out!
In the hours since Prince's sudden passing, my teen daughter now realizes that I, a 50 year old woman, was once a teen with a crush and that teen crushes are perfectly okay!
It was the early 80's, I was a senior in high school with plans to run away after graduation and find my way to Prince. Uh huh...those were my plans. I just wanted to be near him, but not in the married with kids kinda way. I knew that I couldn't sing, dance, or play an instrument with enough intensity to gain his interest, but in my obsessed little mind, I would settle for being his housekeeper. Yes, I would be just that.
It was the music, the pretty face, the ruffle front tops, the high heels, the dark eyeliner, and the feeling that behind all of that was a regular human being, just like me. I wore the Rude Boy buttons on my jackets. I imitated the curls feathered to the back with one tendril slightly off centered. That wouldn't be androgynous, would it? I mean with me copying the style of a man and all. Nah! Prince had that pretty boy look and questions about his sexuality were answered with relationship after relationship with the likes of Vanity and Sheila E. I call it "pretty boy cool", the forefather of pretty boy swag! I listened to his music, Uptown, Controversy, Private Joy, and other songs which I didn't fully comprehend the lyrics and once I did, I was like "Oh, I didn't know he was singing about that!" I had his poster on my wall and everyone who knew me well knew that I loved Prince....until...I started crushin' on former guitarist for the The Time and Prince associate, Jesse Johnson.
Yes, I did that! I cheated with a member of the Minneapolis based funk group created by Prince himself! Ouch! You don't date brothers! Before you crucify me, remember that Jesse was the the tall, dark, and handsome guitarist who sang "I wanna be your man, baby" and "Can you help me?" both hits from his first solo album, while wearing a hot pink suit with shirt collar popped, sporting a jheri curl shag, mascara and lip gloss. Come on! Prince was everything, but Jesse was everything and a little taller. You know ladies love tall, dark and handsome!
The fling with Jesse was short-lived and I was back to my first teen crush, Prince, until around 1985, I started crushin' on a classmate in my sophomore year of college. He had the looks, the curls, the mascara, the popped collar, he was Prince or as close to Prince as I would ever get. I never attended any of his concerts, I did however try to listen for hidden messages in his albums which was more of a frightening experience that I would have imagined. But trust me, there was no message of adoration for me...oh...I almost forgot! He did write Adore just for me. See? There you have it! He forgave me. I loved him and he loved me "until the end of time".
A part of me, my teen star crush, has gone but the beauty in his passing is that the part of him that made me who I was, or even who I am, has now been shared with my teen daughter. It's the kind of long kept secret that should be shared. So, when she says "Mom, it's not fair that you had a chance to crush on someone who was alive. I can't do that. How can I crush on Michael Jackson?" A crush is just that, a crush! It's an obsession with someone you may never have an opportunity to see, touch, speak to or have any such contact, but has an impact on your life nonetheless. It's a feeling, a one-sided imaginary relationship that we're entitled to have as a teenager, and she's certainly entitled to hers.
Rest in peace, Prince...and I would have made a wonderful housekeeper..For YOU!
There are several new employee faces at America's Thrift Store, Pell City location and a high turnover rate makes you go "Hmmh?" One particular face that I had become accustomed to seeing on my daily thrift store shopping trips was a young man that I called "skater dude". Of course, I never addressed him as such but when I hadn't seen him in a while, I asked "Where is skater dude?" Skater dude could work those z-racks like a professional skateboarder, wearing skinnny stretch jeans and a tee shirt. His hair was closely cut all around except for his tiny high ponytail that could hold tiny chop sticks unlike the usual skater boy cut with super bangs.
Even with his outdoorsy, laid back style, I could sense that this young man had other plans besides cramming clothing into places where they could hardly fit. I knew that he was capable of so much more and I would think to myself, "He's working his way up to a management position." Our conversation this morning revealed that those were his exact plans, but the plans fell through. Instead of remaining in a work environment with business practices he disapproved of, he changed his appearance, took a few steps to a booming business next door, and doubled his salary!
He revealed that he's gotten several job offers since losing the "skater dude" attire but he's very pleased with his new position and his new look! Drop by Farmer's Home Furniture, Pell City location and say "Hello" to Jason and congratulate him on his recent career move! I'm sure that he is well on his way to the management position that he deserves in one of the fastest growing furniture retailers, with over 187 locations throughout the Southeast!
I spent a few hours at Belk, Trussville location today selling Belk charity event tickets, getting the 411 on hot selling items from sales associates, snapping photos of shoes, bags and making a mental wish list of items I would love to have. Brahmin is still leading the pack as the handbag of choice, ladies are purchasing more pantyhose (bye-bye bare legs), and wood heel sandals and wedges are still spring favorites. Now, let's get to what's really hot! I think it's hot that guys actually purse shop for their spouses. One guy in particular was looking at Brahmin bags just because his wife was feeling a little "down and out". He also has tickets for a Beyonce concert and asked if I thought that would enough to make her feel better. My response was, "Most times a new Brahmin bag alone would be enough." Then, there was a cute lil cowgirl who informed me that her "better half" shops for her and he only buys her Louis Vuitton bags. Not that's HOT!
Be sure to get your ticket for the Belk charity sale event which will be held from 6 - 10 am on April 30th at all Belk locations. Enjoy "hot" deals and steals store wide!
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